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I help parents connect with the spiritual energy of their uniquely gifted child and give you solid strategies for balanced and connected parenting. Start with a Free 10-minute consultation to see how you and your child can benefit. Please email me at julie@soulsensewellbeing.co.uk

I found this article on Psychology today and I wanted to share it with you. I am finding that many new clients are suggesting that they have feelings of depression, but what is depression. This article is highly informative and if you are suffering from any of the symptoms listed below, I am available for a chat. Please email me at jdjcounselling@gmail.com

Julie Dawn Jones from JDJCounselling being interviewed by Bernadette Bruckner on WRS MRS Radio Station. It’s the station where we can open up meaningful, helpful and constructive conversation. See what Julie has to say

With the uncertainty of this unprecedented crisis, I've seen increasing levels of anxiety in people who are typically able to cope with challenges in a level-headed manner. They’re letting their worst fears guide them instead of their best thinking. My job is to help people figure out how to stay thoughtful, calm, and able to solve problems as the news about COVID-19 changes daily, and often hourly.

I’ve been working with couples for nearly 20 years. One of the powerful techniques I use is called EFT (Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy). I’ve found this to produce extraordinary results. Why? Couples work together with me to identify and move on from the deeply rooted emotional causes of their disconnections. We call these ‘raw spots’.

I recently completed an Emotional-Focused Couples Therapy course (EFT). For me, it was a new way of working with couples and it’s produced some remarkable results in just a few short weeks.

These are challenging times for our mental health. The Coronavirus pandemic and the uncertainty around our health, our loved ones, a change to our routine and job insecurity has left many of us feeling anxious.

There is a movement in positive psychology toward what’s called “radical acceptance”. That means focusing on gratitude, and resonating with the positive. And with good reason: it works! People are improving their quality of life because of these techniques.

Problem drinking is soaring the UK under lockdown, say addiction experts.

Shocking new statistics reveal that domestic violence has surged since the start of the coronavirus lockdown. Alarming? Yes, but sadly, not unexpected.

Sex and drugs have been closely connected: loved by some, a major addiction problem for many. We guide you on dealing with concurrent chemical and sex addiction and offer 2 worksheets for therapists and clients alike.

Shame is an unspoken epidemic, the secret behind many forms of broken behaviour.

Gaming addiction is a growing issue for young people, causing disruption to their lives. In this video I share my thoughts on how to tackle it. If it chimes with you, just contact me via www.jdjcounselling.solutions

Food for thought?

Having an eating problem can be very hard to cope with, but it’s important to understand that eating problems aren’t just about food.

In this post I will outline reasons I think all couples who intend to make a long-term commitment to each other should consider:

Over many years, I’ve seen Love Addicts repeat the same patterns time and time again. Some of my clients believe that they just can’t find the right one, or that their love has gone from the relationship. They jump from one to another, always searching for that fix, that high which makes them feel special and whole. They are on a hamster wheel and too frightened to get off, so they keep running around searching, exhausting themselves in the process. Love addiction is a chronic and compulsive craving in the pursuit of romantic love. They desire security from another without thinking things through rationally. Their need for attachment is to survive and they seek connection, especially that romantic connection, time and time again. There's nothing dysfunctional wanting love as this is a human condition, but when you forsake yourself for the ill-fitting relationships that you are in repeatedly, your life becomes problematic to you! Here are 10 questions for you to ask yourself: 1. Have you ever thought if only someone loved you in a wonderful, special and distinctive way? And that if only you had someone like that, you would be happy forever? 2. Were you, or are you, pre-occupied with the notions of love? Do you listen to music and drift away with the notion of it – dreaming of it as you see it unfold in the movies that you watch, or the couples that you see holding hands and laughing together in the streets etc.? 3. Have you ever talked yourself into loving someone, needing them even though you knew they were not right for you? You've not been able to turn away, as the power of being in love is bigger that the reality of difference. You need their LOVE now as it will sooth you, numb you and make you feel whole. 4. Have you stayed with someone because you are not prepared to be alone? Do you panic at the thought of being alone and will return to ex-partners who have treated you badly. 5. Did you ever place scaffolding around your partner, smooth away their own issues to make them seem better to you early in the relationship? Have you felt that doing this to/with someone was much better than accepting the lack of similarities and admitting that you are just not suited. 6. Do you always strive for those ‘whistle and flute’ days? The excitement of being in love is stronger than anything. Your believe you met your soul mate again, you are whole once again, and this time this is the one true love for you!! 7. Since you started dating, how long have you been on your own or unattached to someone? Have you been free from fretting about being attracted to someone, or someone being attracted to you? 8. When you are in a relationship, do you ever wonder off in your head to past relationships and wish they were still in your life. Are you always on alert for that attention from others and thinking there is someone better around the corner – even though you are with someone and committed to them? Does flirting stay with you during these times and the need to feel special from others is as strong as ever? 9. Do you expect your partner to make you feel whole, loved and special all the time? If they are not paying you as much attention as you would like, do you become upset and the need to feel wanted and loved is stronger than ever? 10. Have you ever taken time to heal from a relationship before entering a new one? I don’t intend to score you on your questionnaire. However, if you’ve answered ‘yes’ to a majority of the questions above, there are ways that you can stop this compulsion and lead a healthier life with healthier relationships. The first step is to forge a better relationship with yourself. Why not try something different, because your past experiences have not worked for you. Don’t ever, ever give up! Recovery is possible. If you slip, get right back up – as the old saying goes: “Fall 7 times; get up 8!” Learn everything you can about your addiction. Stick to your treatment program, even when you don’t feel like it! Don’t compromise your personal values just to fulfil an urge. Have a game plan in place for those times when temptation rears its ugly head. Keep a log of all the times you are successful – this will help keep you motivated during the most difficult times because you’ll see how far you’ve come. It’s okay to desire “Mr. Right” or “Ms. Right”. BUT, don’t make it your highest priority, or put your life on hold while you’re waiting. The more fully you live your life, the more attractive you will be to that right person for you when he or she comes along. Don’t try to be someone other than who you really are. No matter how low you feel, never put yourself down – truly be your own best friend and treat yourself with the same respect you would treat any dear friend. Learn to forgive yourself and others. Holding grudges takes a lot of energy, and the underlying hurt and anger can be a trigger for giving into urges. Don’t try to manipulate someone to make them stay with you. Don’t look to others to validate you – that must come within. The more you believe in yourself and value yourself, the more others will admire and respect you. Don’t ever settle for Mr. or Ms. Wrong because you’re scared of being alone – you’ll just end up exchanging one type of pain for another. Don’t dwell on past mistakes or regrets. Accept that you can’t change the past, forgive yourself, and focus on the present and the future. Don’t make perfection a goal – it will never be attainable. Instead, strive to be excellent. Surround yourself with trustworthy people who will support you while treating you with the respect you deserve. Take responsibility for the decisions you have made. When you’re feeling alone or scared, find opportunities to spend time with others in a healthy environment. Remember that being alone does not mean you are worthless or undeserving of love. Make time in your life to focus on something you are passionate about, or that gives you a strong sense of purpose. Rid your life of anything or anyone that is toxic or not good for you. This may include bad habits, a relationship with someone toxic, or replacing an old bad habit with a healthy new one. (Note though – don’t try to do this all at once, just focus on one or two things or people at a time.) Visualise often a life without this addiction. Imagine yourself living that life right now, not some day down the road. Learn something new that you enjoy. Focusing on a new task or project is a great way to ward off intrusive thoughts. Make sure that your expectations of yourself as well as others is realistic. Always stay focused on your goals and be true to your heart. While this isn’t a comprehensive list by any means, it will hopefully help you see the importance of getting treatment for your love addiction. Treatment: I offer an assessment that can help you identify what your needs are, and we can begin our work from there. I will use a model that is the right one for you. You are an individual and this needs to be explored within therapy. Remember: You do not have to do this alone and it’s hard to combat without the support of others. We will work towards a bespoke treatment plan that caters for your unique life, and unique you!

A talk by paula Hill

Do you ever find yourself following a certain train of thought, without consciously deciding to go down that path, that takes you to a sad or upsetting conclusion? It’s an automatic process and we are usually completely unaware of our distortions and how they affect our lives. But it can be a scary place.

We know how our actions can have a positive or negative affect on our health but have we thought about how our partner’s actions might affect our health?

Do you feel like you are spiralling out of control? Are you worried about your mental health? Well, you’re not alone!

Whatever our age or situation in life, we do not have to suffer alone.

Let’s start talking about SEX ADDICTION AND WOMEN!

We confuse love with neediness, physical and sexual attraction, pity and/or the need to rescue or be rescued. It consumes, it destroys, and it disables.

I have found this amazing short exercise. It uses mindful breathing to help you cope with anxiousness and stresses of everyday life. It’s been tried and tested and there has been some great responses from my clients. Try it – it will help with anxiousness and de-stress you. Keep it up and practice each day, especially when those bad times hit you. It can help to rejuvenate you in the middle of a workday as well.

We are living in extraordinary times and on the verge of yet another lockdown. How will we manage and is there any room for a thing called happiness in our lives? I found this article in Psychology today and thought I would share with you.

I work with people and families that struggle with addictions and have for many years. I wanted to highlight the concerns of many such as C. Drummond and the worsening crisis of addiction in the UK.

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